The Complexities Of Holiday Gift-Giving In The Workplace

Many bosses say that the office is like a family, but thinking about that metaphor too much can make workplace etiquette confusing. Especially around the holidays. One difficult issue is workplace gift-giving. Should you give your peers gifts? What about your boss? Newsweek asked human resources and workplace etiquette experts. Here’s what they had to say:

Understanding Workplace Gift-Giving Etiquette

Gift-giving in the workplace can create uncertainty and discomfort. While many people view it as a thoughtful gesture, others may see it as unnecessary or even inappropriate. According to experts, there is no obligation to give gifts to coworkers, and in some workplaces, doing so may push the boundaries of employee guidelines.

Kim Colbert, Global Head of Employee Relations at Ceridian, emphasizes that "giving a gift to your co-workers is a nice thing to do, but I don't think you should feel guilty if you decide not to." It's crucial to recognize that not everyone celebrates holidays in the same way or at all, which can lead to misunderstandings.

Moreover, Robert Kaskel, Chief People Officer at Checkr, points out that gifts should not be transactional. “You should never feel obligated to give a gift to coworkers or bosses—the entire point of gifting is that it’s an unnecessary gesture of kindness.” This perspective allows employees to feel comfortable in their choices without fear of judgment.

Should You Give Your Coworkers Holiday Gifts?

While the idea of giving gifts to coworkers may seem appealing, it’s essential to consider the workplace culture and guidelines. Many offices have specific rules regarding gift-giving, and it's always wise to familiarize yourself with these policies. Jodi Smith, president and owner of Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting, suggests checking your employee handbook for any guidance regarding holiday gifts.

If the handbook doesn’t provide specific rules, ask fellow employees what has been done in previous years. This will help you gauge what is acceptable in your workplace. If you decide to give gifts, keep them modest and thoughtful to avoid any awkwardness or misunderstandings.

Should You Give Your Boss a Holiday Gift?

The dynamics of gift-giving become even more complicated when it involves supervisors. While some may argue against giving gifts to a boss because of the power imbalance, Kaskel notes that many employees form genuine friendships with their managers. “It’s okay to acknowledge that with a modest gift of appreciation,” he states.

However, it’s essential not to feel pressured into gift-giving. Colbert mentions, “Over the decades that I’ve led teams, I’ve never expected my team to give me gifts or held it against anyone for not getting me a gift.” This mindset promotes a healthy work environment where both employees and supervisors feel comfortable.

Typically, there’s no obligation for employees and supervisors to exchange gifts; however, Smith highlights one exception: the relationship between a boss and their executive secretary, which can be more personal and special. In general, gifts should be given as friends, not as an employee, to maintain professional boundaries.

How to Choose Office Christmas Gifts

When selecting gifts for coworkers, it’s crucial to remain within budget and avoid overstepping workplace boundaries. Experts recommend staying under $25 per coworker, as Colbert reminds us that “it’s the thought that counts.” This approach allows you to express appreciation without putting a financial strain on yourself.

• Consider Non-Traditional Gifts: Sometimes, a heartfelt holiday card or a donation to a charity in your coworker's name can be more meaningful than a physical gift.
• Think About Optics: If you’re on a small team, ensure that your gift choices don’t inadvertently send a message about who you value more.
• Proceed with Caution on Gag Gifts: Humor can be subjective, so it’s best to save these for social occasions and ensure they’re respectful.
• Don’t Get Too Personal: Thoughtful gifts like a gift card for lunch are great, but avoid guessing sizes for clothing as it may lead to discomfort.

Your Choice Matters

This year, many Americans are opting out of Christmas gifts, so if you choose not to buy presents for your office, no one will hold it against you. However, if you want to show appreciation, consider small and inexpensive items that everyone will love, such as gift cards or treats. The key is to keep it light and thoughtful, ensuring that gifting remains a positive gesture in the workplace.